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How to relax and flirt with confidence

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Take the pressure off with hypnosis 

 

Flirt with Confidence 

Is a lack of flirting confidence holding you back from connecting?

 

Do you want to get a little closer to someone, but you’re too scared to open your mouth?

It’s tough, isn’t it? There she is. There he is. You feel that spark
of attraction, of interest. It might be their eyes. It might be their
smile. Maybe it’s just the way they’re standing. Wouldn’t it be great to
just send them a little signal that you’ve noticed them, that you like
them, that you’d like to talk, just to see if any answering signal comes
back?

But something holds you back. Shyness, awkwardness, not knowing what to say or do, fear of rejection, fear of upsetting someone.

And the moment passes.


Getting over the block on your flirting confidence

Other people seem to get flirting without a care in the world.
There they are, chatting and giggling away, giving each other the eye,
enjoying themselves at this age-old dating game. Why not you?

Well, you may be surprised to learn that whatever is getting in the way, it is not your capacity for flirtatiousness!

You, like every other human being on the planet, have inherited the
blueprint for flirting in your DNA. Lots of things – upbringing, social
constraints, beliefs, bad experiences – can get in the way of using that blueprint, but you can be sure it’s there. You too can flirt.

Where to start?

Hypnosis can help you quickly build flirting confidence – and skill

Flirt with confidence is an audio hypnosis session that will
completely transform your confidence in yourself when you want to make
that first playful connection with someone.

As you relax and listen repeatedly to your download, you’ll notice that you

  • feel amazingly more relaxed about life in general (not just chatting people up!)

  • begin to have a much wider view of what flirting is all about

  • inwardly absorb and act on those hypnotic suggestions that are most helpful to you personally

  • discover how to adjust your approach to meet the needs of any situation

  • stop worrying about ‘success’ or ‘failure’ and allow yourself to enjoy the process

  • have so much more fun!

Download Flirt with confidence and communicate and connect with ease.

Improve your self confidence in 15 minutes

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Many folks used to be frighteningly under confident in social situations.
And although people who know me now would never believe I used to doubt myself
so much I literally had to learn confidence until it became a natural part of
me. I can tell you relaxed optimistic confidence is just, well so much more
fun.
Here I’ll tell you about the things that made the most
difference to my confidence levels…
Some people have naturally high levels of confidence but
everybody can learn to be more confident
Firstly, it’s important to get a clear idea of what self
confidence really means, otherwise you won’t know when you’ve got it! So, self
confidence means:
1) Being calm. For every situation
in life you need to run on the appropriate level of emotion. Too much emotional
‘leakage’ into a experience can spoil the experience. You make great strides
towards confidence when you begin to relax in a greater range of situations.
2) Being cool. The second part of
self confidence is about being able to relax with uncertainty. To be ‘cool’ in
a situation really means relaxing with not knowing how things will pan out. If
you truly tolerate uncertainty, you can do pretty much anything.
3) Not being too concerned with what others think of you. You
know when you imagine what some place is going to be like before you go there
but when you get there it is totally different to your imagination? That’s how
reliable your imagination is! Stop trusting your imagination so much. I’ve long
since stopped bothering to imagine what others think of me because so often
I’ve turned out to be wrong.
4) Being specific – where do you want confidence? ‘Confidence’
is meaningless until you tie it to something specific. You are already
confident that you can read these words or can switch a light on and off. So
you don’t need more confidence everywhere. To get what you want in life you
have to establish exactly what you do want. Where do you want confidence in
your life? Think about the specific situations now and write them down. You
beginning to steer your brain towards confidence.
5) Understanding that what you expect is what you get. Your
brain is an organ that needs clear goals to work towards. When a task has been
set in your brain it will do everything it can do to bring about the completion
of that task. If you’ve tried to recall someone’s name but can’t, hours later
you’ll often find their name pops into your head.
The ‘trying to recall’ experience set the task or blueprint for
your brain’s future subconscious behaviour which eventually produced the name
for you – when you weren’t thinking about it consciously. You can use this
natural mechanism to start feeling more confident. But, to ensure you set the
right task for your subconscious mind, the next point is vital.
6) Don’t task your mind with negatives. Instead
of: ‘I don’t want to screw up’ (which sets the task of ‘screwing up’ for your
brain), set the blueprint for what you do want! Your brain doesn’t work towards
what to do by being told what not to do. And nature has given you a wonderful
natural tool to set the right task blueprints with.
7) Use nature’s goal-setter: Now you understand
how vital it is to set the right task for you brain, you need to know how to do
this reliably. Good hypnosis will strongly ‘program’ the right blueprint in
your mind through the use of your imagination. If you powerfully imagine
feeling confident and relaxed while in a relaxed hypnotic state it will be hard
for your unconscious mind to do anything else. The blueprint for relaxation has
been set firmly into your subconscious mind.
3 simple strategies to get you feeling confident quickly:
1) Think specifically of the time/place/situation you want to
feel confident in. Remember ‘confidence’ doesn’t mean anything until you attach
it to something specific.
2) Focus on words in your mind right now that describe how
you do want to be in that time and place. Maybe words such as ‘calm’, ‘relaxed’
or ‘focused’. Remember your brain works on clear positive instructions.
3) Close your eyes for as long as you like and think about
how those words feel. Then, imagine the situation itself and rehearse it in
your mind feeling confident and relaxed. This way you set the right blueprint
or ‘task’ for your unconscious mind.
You can repeat this often to make it more effective and use it
with as many areas of your life as you need to. If you listen to a hypnotic cd
or download that can make the benefits even more powerful (see my profile
below). So if you feel like you’d be blessed with less confidence than some
other people you can start redressing the balance by using your mind in the
right way right now.
It took me years to learn how to be more confident – now you can
do it in a fraction of the time. Good luck!

Improve your self confidence in 15 minutes

by


Many folks used to be frighteningly under confident in social situations.
And although people who know me now would never believe I used to doubt myself
so much I literally had to learn confidence until it became a natural part of
me. I can tell you relaxed optimistic confidence is just, well so much more
fun.
Here I’ll tell you about the things that made the most
difference to my confidence levels…
Some people have naturally high levels of confidence but
everybody can learn to be more confident
Firstly, it’s important to get a clear idea of what self
confidence really means, otherwise you won’t know when you’ve got it! So, self
confidence means:
1) Being calm. For every situation
in life you need to run on the appropriate level of emotion. Too much emotional
‘leakage’ into a experience can spoil the experience. You make great strides
towards confidence when you begin to relax in a greater range of situations.
2) Being cool. The second part of
self confidence is about being able to relax with uncertainty. To be ‘cool’ in
a situation really means relaxing with not knowing how things will pan out. If
you truly tolerate uncertainty, you can do pretty much anything.
3) Not being too concerned with what others think of you. You
know when you imagine what some place is going to be like before you go there
but when you get there it is totally different to your imagination? That’s how
reliable your imagination is! Stop trusting your imagination so much. I’ve long
since stopped bothering to imagine what others think of me because so often
I’ve turned out to be wrong.
4) Being specific – where do you want confidence? ‘Confidence’
is meaningless until you tie it to something specific. You are already
confident that you can read these words or can switch a light on and off. So
you don’t need more confidence everywhere. To get what you want in life you
have to establish exactly what you do want. Where do you want confidence in
your life? Think about the specific situations now and write them down. You
beginning to steer your brain towards confidence.
5) Understanding that what you expect is what you get. Your
brain is an organ that needs clear goals to work towards. When a task has been
set in your brain it will do everything it can do to bring about the completion
of that task. If you’ve tried to recall someone’s name but can’t, hours later
you’ll often find their name pops into your head.
The ‘trying to recall’ experience set the task or blueprint for
your brain’s future subconscious behaviour which eventually produced the name
for you – when you weren’t thinking about it consciously. You can use this
natural mechanism to start feeling more confident. But, to ensure you set the
right task for your subconscious mind, the next point is vital.
6) Don’t task your mind with negatives. Instead
of: ‘I don’t want to screw up’ (which sets the task of ‘screwing up’ for your
brain), set the blueprint for what you do want! Your brain doesn’t work towards
what to do by being told what not to do. And nature has given you a wonderful
natural tool to set the right task blueprints with.
7) Use nature’s goal-setter: Now you understand
how vital it is to set the right task for you brain, you need to know how to do
this reliably. Good hypnosis will strongly ‘program’ the right blueprint in
your mind through the use of your imagination. If you powerfully imagine
feeling confident and relaxed while in a relaxed hypnotic state it will be hard
for your unconscious mind to do anything else. The blueprint for relaxation has
been set firmly into your subconscious mind.
3 simple strategies to get you feeling confident quickly:
1) Think specifically of the time/place/situation you want to
feel confident in. Remember ‘confidence’ doesn’t mean anything until you attach
it to something specific.
2) Focus on words in your mind right now that describe how
you do want to be in that time and place. Maybe words such as ‘calm’, ‘relaxed’
or ‘focused’. Remember your brain works on clear positive instructions.
3) Close your eyes for as long as you like and think about
how those words feel. Then, imagine the situation itself and rehearse it in
your mind feeling confident and relaxed. This way you set the right blueprint
or ‘task’ for your unconscious mind.
You can repeat this often to make it more effective and use it
with as many areas of your life as you need to. If you listen to a hypnotic cd
or download that can make the benefits even more powerful (see my profile
below). So if you feel like you’d be blessed with less confidence than some
other people you can start redressing the balance by using your mind in the
right way right now.
It took me years to learn how to be more confident – now you can
do it in a fraction of the time. Good luck!

Learn flirting with confidence

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Learn flirting withconfidence, without learning endless lists of tips
Learn honesty in your communication and let people know you’re
interested in them
Flirting can be great fun, yet many people are too shy or
nervous to enjoy this wonderful social experience. Even if they spot signs that
someone may be flirting with them, they are too anxious to go with the flow and
enjoy it.
Have you ever read lists of ‘flirting tips’, how to spot signs
of flirting, or body language books? Many people have, yet are still not
confident with flirting.
The trouble with learning flirting tips, or trying to remember
what various forms of flirting body language actually mean is that it is all
intellectual – a ‘thinking’ process. Flirting is a ‘doing’ process.
What’s much better than flirting tips, or learning about body
language?
Because you need to relax to flirt well, the best way to learn
about flirting is to prepare your mind to relax when you have a chance to
flirt. Using this Flirting Confidence hypnosis mp3 download,
you will quickly and effortlessly learn flirting skills – skills that will not
desert you in the heat of the moment!
Flirting is a way of signaling to someone you like them.When you
flirt with confidence people feel flattered that you like them and you get to
showcase your own energy and confidence – two features which are always
attractive to others.
Rather than a form of manipulation (which is sometimes what a
person who can’t / won’t flirt feels it to be), flirting is really a form of
honesty as you display your interest in another person. Confident flirting has
the added bonus of making other people feel good.
Download Flirting Confidence now and
join in with the flirting experience!

How shyness is developed and maintained?

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Shyness
really is a combination of social anxiety and social conditioning. To overcome
shyness you need to learn to relax socially. This enables you to direct your
attention away from yourself and gives you the space to practice certain
conversational skills. In most cases, the heightened emotions of socializing
when young simply condition the sufferer to respond to social events with fear,
instead of excitement and pleasure.
Relaxed
socializing is so pleasurable, not to say productive, but it is an advantage
denied to many until they learn to relax. To start reducing your own shyness, I
want you to absorb the following tips and ideas and start to put them into
practice:
1) Think
about the way you feel and behave around familiar people you are comfortable
and spontaneous around. It’s that feeling transferred to new people and
situations that equates to your emerging social confidence.
2) Focus
your attention away from yourself. Sure, you can think a little bit about how
you are coming across, but if all your focus is on your own words and feelings
then you might as well be by yourself. Notice what other people are wearing and
make a mental note, listen to their conversation, imagine where they might
live, make a point of remembering names. Not only does this give you more to
talk about, it also ‘dilutes’ social anxiety leaving you feeling calmer.
3) Ask
people open questions. Many people like to talk about themselves and will find
you interesting if you find them interesting. Ask questions that require more
than a ‘yes’/’no’ response such as ‘What do you like about this place?’ rather
than: ‘Do you like this place?’ Once they’ve answered use ‘add-on’ questions
connected to the first such as: ‘What other places do you like in this city.?’
Next you can express your views. This is a great way to get the conversation
going. If the conversation doesn’t ‘take’ then no matter, you’ve done your bit.
4) Stop
trusting your imagination so much! Have you ever had an imaginary picture in
your mind of a holiday destination only to arrive and find the reality is
different from the way you had imagined? That’s how reliable imagination is.
Stop imagining what others think. I do lots of public speaking and I’ve long
since stopped trying to second guess what others think of me – it’s just too
painful. Besides, what a person thinks about you has a lot more to do with who
they are than who you are.
5) Stop
using ‘all or nothing’ thinking. The ‘completely this/completely that’ style of
thought occurs when you are emotional. People who are depressed, angry or
anxious see reality in terms of differing extremes, simplistic all or nothing
terms. An angry person is ‘right’ and you are ‘wrong’; the depressed person
feels like a ‘failure’ while others are a ‘success’. In reality, life is
composed of infinite gray areas. So stop fearing that you might say the ‘wrong’
thing! Or that people will ‘hate’ you. Once you start to relax more socially
you’ll notice much less black or white thinking because anxiety actually causes
you to think in all or nothing terms.
6) Take
your time. You don’t have to blurt things out. Ask questions and if questions
are asked of you can take time to consider your response (within reason). Don’t
just blurt out what you think might be the ‘right’ answer. A slow answer is a
relaxed answer.
7) Finally,
use hypnotic rehearsal. Hypnosis is the quickest way to change your
instinctive/emotional response to any situation. Only think about meeting
others when your mind and body is relaxed. This conditions you to associate
relaxation with being around new people. In fact you’ll find that when you
relax deeply enough often enough whilst hypnotically rehearsing being
comfortable around others you’ll reach the point where you just can’t be shy
any more! This is what I call a ‘happy inability!’
I
now love meeting new people and suspect that my current social confidence would
be unrecognizable to my fifteen year old self.
Overcome shyness now at
HypnosisDownloads.com

How shyness is developed and maintained?

by

Shyness
really is a combination of social anxiety and social conditioning. To overcome
shyness you need to learn to relax socially. This enables you to direct your
attention away from yourself and gives you the space to practice certain
conversational skills. In most cases, the heightened emotions of socializing
when young simply condition the sufferer to respond to social events with fear,
instead of excitement and pleasure.
Relaxed
socializing is so pleasurable, not to say productive, but it is an advantage
denied to many until they learn to relax. To start reducing your own shyness, I
want you to absorb the following tips and ideas and start to put them into
practice:
1) Think
about the way you feel and behave around familiar people you are comfortable
and spontaneous around. It’s that feeling transferred to new people and
situations that equates to your emerging social confidence.
2) Focus
your attention away from yourself. Sure, you can think a little bit about how
you are coming across, but if all your focus is on your own words and feelings
then you might as well be by yourself. Notice what other people are wearing and
make a mental note, listen to their conversation, imagine where they might
live, make a point of remembering names. Not only does this give you more to
talk about, it also ‘dilutes’ social anxiety leaving you feeling calmer.
3) Ask
people open questions. Many people like to talk about themselves and will find
you interesting if you find them interesting. Ask questions that require more
than a ‘yes’/’no’ response such as ‘What do you like about this place?’ rather
than: ‘Do you like this place?’ Once they’ve answered use ‘add-on’ questions
connected to the first such as: ‘What other places do you like in this city.?’
Next you can express your views. This is a great way to get the conversation
going. If the conversation doesn’t ‘take’ then no matter, you’ve done your bit.
4) Stop
trusting your imagination so much! Have you ever had an imaginary picture in
your mind of a holiday destination only to arrive and find the reality is
different from the way you had imagined? That’s how reliable imagination is.
Stop imagining what others think. I do lots of public speaking and I’ve long
since stopped trying to second guess what others think of me – it’s just too
painful. Besides, what a person thinks about you has a lot more to do with who
they are than who you are.
5) Stop
using ‘all or nothing’ thinking. The ‘completely this/completely that’ style of
thought occurs when you are emotional. People who are depressed, angry or
anxious see reality in terms of differing extremes, simplistic all or nothing
terms. An angry person is ‘right’ and you are ‘wrong’; the depressed person
feels like a ‘failure’ while others are a ‘success’. In reality, life is
composed of infinite gray areas. So stop fearing that you might say the ‘wrong’
thing! Or that people will ‘hate’ you. Once you start to relax more socially
you’ll notice much less black or white thinking because anxiety actually causes
you to think in all or nothing terms.
6) Take
your time. You don’t have to blurt things out. Ask questions and if questions
are asked of you can take time to consider your response (within reason). Don’t
just blurt out what you think might be the ‘right’ answer. A slow answer is a
relaxed answer.
7) Finally,
use hypnotic rehearsal. Hypnosis is the quickest way to change your
instinctive/emotional response to any situation. Only think about meeting
others when your mind and body is relaxed. This conditions you to associate
relaxation with being around new people. In fact you’ll find that when you
relax deeply enough often enough whilst hypnotically rehearsing being
comfortable around others you’ll reach the point where you just can’t be shy
any more! This is what I call a ‘happy inability!’
I
now love meeting new people and suspect that my current social confidence would
be unrecognizable to my fifteen year old self.
Overcome shyness now at
HypnosisDownloads.com

Why you need to reclaim hypnosis for yourself?

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Hypnosis
is your birthright. It’s nature’s optimum learning tool. In fact to learn and
perform anything well you need to experience a natural focussing of attention,
a natural kind of hypnosis. To be successful hypnosis needs to be your
companion and friend.
Successful
people use it naturally all the time because hypnosis is natural. It’s the way
we learn new responses. Unlike medications its side effects are purely positive
– one expectant mother I worked with to feel relaxed during child birth later
reported that she was also more relaxed when flying!
Hypnosis
is easy to learn and every body can benefit. Hypnosis is a safe environment to
‘try out’ new behaviours and emotional patterns before you experience them for
real. So the young man can ask a woman out for a date many times in calm
relaxed hypnosis so that by the time he does it for real it feels real and
natural and relaxed. Sports people who use hypnosis learn new quicker and more
accurately. So hypnosis gives you more control of yourself and your life, it’s
natural and gives you instant benefits and it’s a way of ‘trying on’ and
establishing new patterns of emotional response and behaviour, Hypnosis enables
you to develop yourself as a human being.
HypnosisDownloads.com
offer a free course called ‘Learn Hypnosis in 5 Days‘.

7 Ways to Soothe your Shyness

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Shy
people instinctively know that they are missing out. Shyness equals lost
opportunities, less pleasure and fewer social connections. Shyness can be
crippling but there are tried and tested ways to make it a thing of the past.
When
I was fifteen I was shy. I recall an attractive girl attempting to engage me in
conversation. My shyness made me focus on me instead of her. I heard my own
voice but not hers and I thought about what I was trying to say instead of what
she was trying to say.
The
formula for shyness is “too much focus on the self” plus anxiety. To
make it even more unpleasant, sometimes when you are feeling shy you experience
physical sensations which ‘hijack’ your calm logical self.
My
pulse raced, my mouth dried up and I felt like the village idiot! I couldn’t
think what to say so I said nothing apart from making barely audible grunting
noises! Cary Grant eat your heart out! When I detected pity in her eyes (or was
it contempt, or boredom) I mumbled my excuse and got out of there. I hated
being shy and was determined to change it.

7 Ways to Soothe your Shyness

by

Shy
people instinctively know that they are missing out. Shyness equals lost
opportunities, less pleasure and fewer social connections. Shyness can be
crippling but there are tried and tested ways to make it a thing of the past.
When
I was fifteen I was shy. I recall an attractive girl attempting to engage me in
conversation. My shyness made me focus on me instead of her. I heard my own
voice but not hers and I thought about what I was trying to say instead of what
she was trying to say.
The
formula for shyness is “too much focus on the self” plus anxiety. To
make it even more unpleasant, sometimes when you are feeling shy you experience
physical sensations which ‘hijack’ your calm logical self.
My
pulse raced, my mouth dried up and I felt like the village idiot! I couldn’t
think what to say so I said nothing apart from making barely audible grunting
noises! Cary Grant eat your heart out! When I detected pity in her eyes (or was
it contempt, or boredom) I mumbled my excuse and got out of there. I hated
being shy and was determined to change it.

How can I be so sure?

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Because
over the decades I’ve seen all kinds of people, all ages and from all
backgrounds turn their lives around thanks to hypnosis. When you use hypnosis
for yourself it improves confidence in all kinds of ways. When you use it to
change other’s lives it just blows you away. This is what I mean.

When
I first hypnotised someone to feel no sensation in a painful arthritic arm it
was an incredible feeling. When I first cured life long phobias quickly and
comfortably I was astounded. When I stopped hardened alcoholics from drinking
and even got a heroin addict off the stuff and back into mainstream life again
I started to feel angry that people could just associate hypnosis with
entertainment.

With
the aid of hypnosis I (and many people I have trained and worked with) have
helped severely depressed people feel strong and positive again. The rewards
and satisfactions are hard to describe. I’m going to take a stand against
ignorance and short sightedness around hypnosis and here’s why.